In September, we reflected on the past thirty-seven years of Kirby Pines, and expressed our thankfulness for the “unity” provided to make Kirby Pines, what so many refer to as “the best retirement community in Memphis”. In fact, Kirby Pines was once again selected by the readers of the Commercial Appeal as “THE BEST Retirement Community” for the fourteenth consecutive year in the tristate area; and by the Memphis Business Journal as The TOP Multi Service Retirement Community for the eleventh consecutive year.
Of course, these awards of recognition would not be possible if it weren’t for the individuals who live and work at Kirby Pines. And what better way to begin the month, than by acknowledging the International Day of the Older Person, October 1st. Designated by the General Assembly of the United Nations in 1990, all countries are encouraged to enable men and women to age with dignity and to integrate aging issues into everyday life. Kirby Pines is a daily example of doing just this.
This month we also celebrate: October 2nd, National Custodial Worker’s Day – a day when we should all make an effort to thank the men and women in our housekeeping and laundry department for the hard work they do for us each day; October 4-10th is National Health Care Food Service Week, these dedicated employees are an essential part of our integrated services; October 25th-31sth is National Pastoral Care week, and we should all make time to thank our Chaplin, Don Johnson, and the numerous residents that coordinate such activities as our Men’s Bible Study group and Thursday night Vespers.
Please join me in thanking these many individuals for the time they dedicate to make a difference in our life. You can join this amazing group on October 24th, which is Make a Difference Day. After all, we all have the ability to do something small that makes a difference.
Michael Escamilla, Executive Director, Kirby Pines
Communication is very important but can at times be catastrophic. What we say is not always what others hear, and what they hear is not always what we say. Here’s a story that effectively illustrates this issue.
The Colonel issued the following directive to his officers: “Tomorrow evening at approximately 2000 hours Halley’s comet will be visible in this area, an event which occurs only once every 75 years. Have the men fall out in the battalion area in fatigues and I will explain this rare phenomenon to them. In case of rain, we will not be able to see anything, so assemble the men in the theater and I will show them films of it.”
This directive was passed on through the Chain of Command in a strange and incorrect way.
Executive officer to company commander: “By order of the colonel. Tomorrow at 2000 hours, Halley’s comet will appear above the battalion area. If it rains, fall the men out in fatigues, then march to the theater where this rare phenomenon will take place, something which occurs only once every 75 years.”
Company commander to lieutenant: “By order of the colonel in fatigues at 2000 hours tomorrow evening, the phenomenal Halley’s comet will appear in the theater. In case of rain in the battalion area, the colonel will give another order, something which occurs once every 75 years.”
Lieutenant to sergeant: “Tomorrow at 2000 hours, the colonel will appear in the theater with Halley’s comet, something which happens every 75 years. If it rains, the colonel will order the comet into the battalion area.”
Sergeant to squad: “When it rains tomorrow at 2000 hours, the phenomenal 75 year old general Halley, accompanied by the colonel, will drive his comet through the battalion area theater in fatigues.”
It reminds me of Norman Rockwell’s painting with numerous rows of people speaking into each others’ ear, passing along what was said by the first person in the chain. When the message got back to the one who had initiated it, there was no resemblance to the original saying. Too often that happens. Transferring thoughts can lead to great misunderstanding.
This happens not only personally but in the conveyance of things by those in leadership positions. Sometimes even the initial directive may be misleading and grows worse at each level of communication. We all know too many examples of this. Can we continue to say one thing and do another? Can we lie either intentionally or accidentally and believe we can get away with it? Remember the pride which was felt when it was said, “He (or she) was a man of his word.”? Those who stand on what they say and mean it is true of an increasing smaller number of persons. When we say what we don’t mean and we don’t mean what we say, our culture cannot long survive such a shaky standard.
In His great Sermon On The Mount, Jesus declared, “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.”
Psalms 19:14 is a fabulous guide for us: “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my strength and my redeemer.”
We should avoid communication chaos everywhere we can! Let’s get the message straight! Let’s communicate it correctly! Let’s start now!
A love story is usually made of several parts. This is certainly true in Ellen and Bill Sayle’s story. One part is about the love which Ellen and Bill Sayle have for each other. They will celebrate their 61st wedding anniversary this month. Another part of their story is Bill’s experience with his physical heart – a heart transplant survivor of twenty-two years! The third part, if known, would be about the family who made the difficult decision to give the heart of a dying loved one.
All stories have a beginning. Ellen and Bill met on a blind date. A friend coerced Ellen to “go out” with Bill. “Well”, she agreed, “I’ll go just this one time”. We know what happened in this part of the story! Ellen and Bill married on September 7, 1959.
Ellen was born in Batesville, Arkansas in 1937, the youngest of 4 children, Ellen says she had a happy childhood – “I was spoiled by everyone”. Following graduation from Batesville High School, Ellen enrolled in Baptist Hospital School of Nursing, Memphis. She remained employed at Baptist as a Registered Nurse, taking time off as life experiences required.
Bill was born in Memphis in 1935. He graduated from Messick High School in 1954 and enjoyed being on the football and baseball teams. After high school, Bill served in the Army for 2 years as a Combat Engineer in Korea. Following discharge, Bill enrolled in Memphis State University. During his first year, he played on the baseball team. Following college, Bill became employed by Chrysler as a Parts Distributor. He remained at Chrysler as long as his health permitted.
Ellen and Bill have two sons, Brian and Craig. Their sons have four children each and there is one great-grandchild expected soon. Ellen and Bill spent much of their time attending sporting events when their sons and grandchildren were young. Bill coached youth baseball for many years all over the Mid-South.
At the age of forty, Bill suffered a heart attack. He attributes this to the life style of traveling, eating the wrong foods, etc. A year later, triple by-pass surgery was performed, followed by implants of a pacemaker and a defibrillator. The defibrillator was very bulky and produced a heavy weight in the body. Yet, Bill survived with this for ten years. Then, shocking news came as Bill’s heart function declined. The doctor informed Bill that he needed a heart transplant, otherwise, he had only about two months to live. The entire family helped make the decision. The first heart transplant was done in Memphis in 1985, yet, many fears concerning the surgery, rejection and a life of medications had to be contemplated. Bill decided the transplant was the only alternative. He was required to stay in the hospital until a heart became available because an intravenous medication was necessary to maintain heart function and keep Bill alive. Bill endured 3 months of hospitalization before the “new” heart was available. During this time, Bill said Ellen was a very good nurse, staying with him in the hospital.
On July 11, 1998, Bill had a heart transplant. The surgery went well and Bill was discharged home after ten days. To everyone’s relief, there was only one minor occurrence of rejection following surgery and Bill has continued to do well for twenty-two years! He recently had a heart catheterization and an intervention was recommended. However, due to the Covid-19 virus, and assurance that he is not high risk, Bill has elected to delay any procedure for awhile.
Ellen & Bill on a Dinner Date, 1990
The third part of the story is about the family who gave the heart of a loved one to Bill. Usually, the recipient of the heart never knows from whom the heart was “harvested”. However, there is an interesting aspect to this story which occurred while Bill was visiting with a group of people. In conversation with a man in the group, Bill learned that the man’s occupation involved transporting donated hearts to the locations needed. Then, Bill began telling him about his heart transplant. The man asked Bill the date of his surgery. According to Bill, “this guy’s eyes opened real wide, he smiled and said, ‘I’m the one who flew to Johnson City, Tennessee and brought your new heart to Memphis’”! No names were given but Bill learned that his new heart came from an eighteen-year-old boy. Imagine the love for others that the young man’s family must have had to make that difficult decision! “Not a day goes by that I don’t think about and be grateful to that boy and his family”, says Bill.
In 2018, Ellen suffered an illness and became increasingly weaker. The decision was made to move to Kirby Pines. Ellen already had a sister, Margaret Tanner, living here. Both Ellen and Bill state, “We have enjoyed making new friends and becoming involved in the activities here”. Both attend Sunday church services here, formerly attending Fisherville Baptist Church. They both exercise in the Oasis. Ellen attends the Book Baggers and the Sewing Club. Bill serves as Wing Leader, sings in the Entertainers Chorus and participates in the Saturday morning Men’s Group.
What a wonderful couple are Ellen and Bill Sayle. They are thankful for so many things in their lives and they remain optimistic with a strong religious faith.
Seniors who spend time outdoors may experience less depression and anxiety. Individuals who run, bike or walk in natural settings have a reduced risk of mental health problems compared to people who do their exercise inside.
Participating in nature walks with others is linked to more positive feelings and better mental health, along with lower levels of depression and stress. Seniors who are unable to exercise can benefit from getting outdoors by enjoying the change of scenery, smelling freshly cut grass and seeing beautiful, natural vistas.
Experts advise that seniors should try to spend time in natural areas like parks on a regular basis. The relaxation that nature provides can improve mood and increase overall feelings of happiness.
Abundant Energy
Being outside in nature makes you feel more alive and provides a greater sense of energy and vitality, which can help make you more resilient to illness.
Spending time outdoors may boost your memory. One study found a 20-percent improvement in attention span and memory after spending just one hour in a natural environment. More time spent outdoors resulted in even greater gains in memory, and it may improve creativity as well.
Better Overall Health
Being outside can help increase levels of Vitamin D, which often is low among seniors. Low levels of this important nutrient are
linked to pain in muscles and bones, inflammation, higher risk of Type 1 diabetes and several types of cancer.
Getting sufficient Vitamin D can help reduce your risk of a number of physical ailments, including rheumatoid arthritis, multiple sclerosis and heart attack. By spending just 15 minutes outside in the sunshine each day, you help your body receive the recommended dose of Vitamin D.
Being outside may also improve your overall immunity by boosting your count of white blood cells, and the improvements may last for a week or more. In addition, time in nature may help you recover more quickly from an injury or illness.
Many Ways to Get Outside
If you enjoy aerobic exercise like walking, heading outdoors for your workout can provide additional benefits.
Gardening is another great way to interact with nature and get some exercise at the same time. Consider creating a natural area with native species that can become routes for butterfly and bird migration. You might consider joining a group for nature-oriented activities like birdwatching.
No matter the activity, research tells us that simply being outside and enjoying nature can provide a variety of benefits for your energy, creativity, and mental and physical well-being.
When I ask, “Would you like to Exercise today? “, occasionally I hear a negative answer: “I used to exercise but now I can’t.“ That may mean I can’t run a mile anymore or play tennis or 18 holes of golf. But everyone can exercise in some way. Many exercises can be done sitting in a chair or standing beside a sturdy chair or even laying on the bed. To get started, all it takes is a “CAN DO“ attitude.
An article, Obtaining a “Can Do” Attitude By Celeste Stewart from lifescript.com reports: “A “can do” attitude is a conviction that shows the world that whatever needs to be done, can and will get done. Unfortunately, many people have a tendency to focus on what can’t be done rather than what can be done. These days especially, we are experiencing “the must and must not do.” It’s time to take the “Can Do” attitude.
Developing a “can do” attitude requires shifting focus from “I can’t” to “I can.” Pay attention to what you are saying and hearing. How much of that is negative? How can you reword it to make it positive? If someone is complaining all the time, try to shift the conversation.
Take responsibility. When facing an obstacle, are you quick to blame other people or circumstances? Instead of placing blame, take responsibility for the challenge and work to overcome it. What can I do?
Take action and follow through. Procrastination will bog you down so don’t fall into the trap of
putting off your tasks. Set your mind to doing something and then do it. Keep going until you reach your goals. If you must take it a small step at a time, that’s fine – as long as you are taking those steps.
Take the positive direction. Surround yourself with other positive people. Energy, both positive and negative, is infectious. Aligning yourself with other can-doers will bring out the best in you.
Adopting a “can do” attitude can change your life. With the right attitude, your health can improve. Whatever your goal is, applying the “can do” spirit will help you reach it. No one says it’s going to be easy. In fact, it takes determination, confidence, and initiative. In addition, this new attitude requires a whole new way of thinking. This positive approach will pay off as you become more self-confident and see steps towards your goals accomplished.
Joining one of our exercise classes offered will put you into company with many “CAN-DOERS” who encourage each other to do what they can to get stronger and stay fit. Start small and work up gradually. If you have been out of the exercise habit for a while, start with 15 minutes of easy to moderate exercise and add 5 min a week to your schedule. After a month you will be up to 30 minutes which is the recommendation of CDC. Thirty minutes for 5 days per week add up to 150 minutes of exercise which has been recommended by Arthritis Foundation. Yoga Stretch on Channel 10 Mondays and Wednesdays at 12:45 is a good
class for beginners (that can be done seated if necessary.) While walking hallways is always a good beginning. Mary Hand will be glad to help you get started in the Oasis with using the equipment and encourage you in whatever exercise plan you want to take.
Remember the scripture, “I CAN DO all things through Christ who strengthens me. “ Philippians 4:13
And don’t forget the children’s book The Little Engine That Could who told himself, “I think I CAN: I think I CAN: I think I CAN.”
This September, Kirby Pines Estates celebrates its thirty-seventh anniversary. And as with any celebration, a lot of planning will go into making this anniversary one that will be enjoyable and memorable. Each year, a theme and color are selected and this year the color is Faded Denim and the theme is Unity.
Denim is about as classic Americana as one can get, and Faded Denim, the weathered look of a dark indigo, represents a sense of strength that comes from hard work. It can signify respect, and a soothing warmth in knowing you’re in a comfortable strong setting. Kirby Pines certainly is respected in its market place as a strong leader in senior living, and is recognized in getting it right.
One of the colors selected for our American flag was blue to signify the strength that comes from honor and unity. The theme of “Unity” is difficult to put into words, simply because the word itself means so many things at different times. Certainly, we are all in unity in celebrating our anniversary; in honoring the hard work done by staff daily over the past thirty-seven years; and especially during this year 2020. This year
is turning out to be one of our country’s most difficult years, and yet it has been with unity that the country has moved forward with a commitment for change, in resolution to find new ways to do the daily tasks necessary to survive and come out stronger once this pandemic is tamed.
Thus, our thirsty-seventh anniversary will celebrate the hard work that has brought Kirby Pines to where we are today, and where we will together, in Unity, move forward to in the years ahead.
Please join with us in celebrating Kirby Pines’ thirty-seventh anniversary !
Michael Escamilla, Executive Director, Kirby Pines
In January, 2000, leaders of Charlotte, North Carolina, invited their favorite son, Billy Graham, to a luncheon in his honor. Billy initially hesitated to accept the invitation because he struggled with Parkinson’s disease. But the Charlotte leaders said, “We don’t expect a major address. Just come and let us honor you.” So he agreed.
Albert Einstein & his wife, Elsa Lowenthal on the train
After wonderful things were said about him, Dr. Graham stepped to the rostrum, looked at the crowd, and said. “I’m reminded today of Albert Einstein, the great physicist who this month has been honored by Time magazine as the Man of the Century. Einstein was once traveling from Princeton on a train when the conductor came down the aisle, punching the tickets of every passenger. When he came to Einstein, Einstein reached in his vest pocket. He could not find his ticket, so he reached in his trouser pockets. It wasn’t there, so he looked in his briefcase but couldn’t find it. Then he looked in the seat beside him. He still couldn’t find it.
The conductor said, “Dr. Einstein, I know who you are. We all know who you are. I’m sure you bought a ticket. Don’t worry about it.” Einstein nodded appreciatively. The conductor continued down the aisle punching tickets. As he was ready to move to the next car, he turned around and saw the great physicist down on his hands and knees looking under his seat for his ticket.
The conductor rushed back and said, “Dr Einstein, Dr. Einstein, don’t worry. I know who you are. You don’t need a ticket. I’m sure you bought one.” Einstein looked at him and said, “Young man, I too, know who I am. What I don’t know is where I’m going.”
Having said that Billy Graham continued, “See the suit I’m wearing? It’s a brand new suit. My wife, my children, and my grand-children are telling me I’ve gotten a little slovenly in my old age. I used to be a bit more fastidious. So I went out and bought a new suit for this luncheon and one more occasion.
Reverend Billy Graham
You know what that occasion is? This is the suit in which I’ll be buried. But when you hear I’m dead, I don’t want you to immediately remember the suit I’m wearing. I want you to remember this: ‘I not only know who I am…I also know where I’m going.’
How about us today? We may say we know who we are but do we know where we’re going? Is our ticket stamped Heaven? Have we left the broad way that leads to destruction to walk the narrow way that leads to life everlasting? Can we say our travel is leading upward and will end inside the gates of glory? This is the assurance the Lord gives to all. He said “Him that comes to me I will in no wise cast out.” John 6:37
Over a year ago, Berry Terry initiated a ministry called Remember That Someone Cares.(RTSC)…..the purpose of the ministry was to focus on our residents with cards and/or visits to celebrate their birthdays and to give encouragement. A list with 12 names was provided each month of suggested individuals who were especially in need of our love and attention.
It soon became obvious that RTSC needed to focus on those in our Medical Areas, which on any given day houses approximately 150 people…..
The Villa, Providence Place, Job’s Way and The Manor. From time to time, residents in Independent Living were also included.
Some of our ministry participants preferred to visit and some enjoyed sending cards….but in March that all changed. Although, we could no longer visit the Medical Areas due to the coronavirus, cards became very important…. especially since so many felt isolated without interaction with friends and love ones.
A special “THANK YOU” to our RTSC Members:
Shirley Anderson
George Courington
Cindy Dabrowski
Jackie Gunther
Peggy Hogan
Lucy Inkster
Tinian Malloy
Lou Moore
Carol Odom
Charles & Laura Parrott
Ann Peyton
Bill Sayle
Sylvia Statham
Betty Terry
Alice Walton
Joy Wright
And our newest Members, Martha Gardiner and Madonna Langford
If you would like more information about RTSC, please contact Cheryl Johnson. The need is so great these days and your help would be greatly appreciated and such a blessing.
It is not unusual to meet a resident of Kirby Pines who has many talents as well as having lived a fulfilling life. Yet, who among the residents is so exceptionally talented in art to have gained recognition from the White House as well as other honors? Who has had repeated art displays on the Art Wall at Kirby? This is a story of such an individual, Jack Williams. Jack, at 92, is also one of the few remaining WWII Veterans to whom we owe so much. He is also quite a joke master.
Jack was born in Muskogee, OK in 1923, the middle child of 3 boys. His father was a Jewel Tea Salesman and a store owner; his mother was a teacher. They moved to Memphis when Jack was about 3 years old when his father became employed with the Post Office. The family rented 7 different homes until finally owning their first home in 1937. Jack says of his childhood, “We lived during The Great Depression. We were poor but didn’t know it. We were like everybody else. My older brother and I had fights as boys do. I was told that when he was 5 years old and I was 3, he put me in his wagon and took me to a neighbor’s house and tried to sell me to them. The neighbors declined and escorted us back home”. Jack said that he and his brothers always had jobs and shared jobs such as a 17-mile paper route, cutting grass, or, operating a Coca-Cola stand in the summer. All three brothers became Boy Scouts. Jack’s favorite job was caddying for golfers at Galloway Golf Club, subsequently learning to play the game. Jack believes that golf opened doors for him as he was selected to play with dignitaries and guests who visited his employer. Jack says, “I enjoyed the game of golf and met many people who helped me in my career.”
In 1940, during the summer prior to graduation from Messick High School, Jack was accepted into a program offered by the Defense Department to prepare workers for the war. Jack chose the class in drafting which resulted in a move to Nashville for classes in advanced drafting conducted at Vanderbilt University. Following completion of that course, Jack took a defense job with Fisher Aircraft. However, in October of 1942, Jack volunteered for the Army Air Corps and after basic training was assigned to the Meteorology Program at Vanderbilt University.
In 1944, Jack was re-classified and sent to Yale University to study Communications. He was eventually commissioned to the rank of 2nd Lieutenant and when the war ended in 1946, Jack had served on 17 different bases.
Following the war, Jack enrolled and graduated from Vanderbilt University in 1948 with a major in Electrical Engineering. Visiting back in Memphis, Jack met his future wife, Margaret Jordan at St. Luke’s Methodist Church. They were married while Jack was still enrolled at Vanderbilt. Three children, two daughters, Linda and Carol and a son, John Paul, who died of leukemia at 3 years of age, were born to their union. There are presently two grandchildren and two great-grandchildren in the family for Jack to cherish.
A Young Jack In Uniform
Following graduation from Vanderbilt, Jack was hired by General Electric and was employed by them for 36 years. His first jobs were menial labor, however, he had been promoted to General Manager of 8 District Managers at the time of his retirement.
Jack’s love of art began at the early age of 17. However, putting all other efforts first, he did not resume his painting until he was in his 50’s. He presently has over 70 paintings. About his artwork, Jack says, “landscapes are my favorite but I also like florals and abstracts”. Learning to paint in several mediums, Jack became famous for his unique style which he refers to as “fractured option” painting. This involves interfacing one painting on top of another. Moving to Germantown in 1989, Jack became a member of the Memphis and Germantown Art League. In 1997, Jack won “Best of Show” for one of his “fractured” paintings in a contest sponsored by the Art League. Among his honors was a reception, a phone call from President Clinton and an article in the Commercial Appeal. The painting was also used on the MGAL’s invitations to their Juried Exhibition in 1998. An article about Jack’s “fractured option” style also appeared in a 1998 issue of The Artist’s Magazine. Another of Jack’s paintings was selected to appear on the front of the Germantown Calendar in 2008. Refusing to accept genius as an acceptable description of his artwork, Jack humbly adds, “I started painting as an adult and advise others to join a group and take classes. Everyone has some talent just waiting to be discovered”. To visit the Arts and Crafts room at Kirby Pines is a testimony to the number of Kirby artists and the opportunities available to the residents to develop their talent.
Jack loves living at Kirby Pines, moving here in September, 2019 from Germantown after spending three months in Kirby Rehabilitation. Sadly, his wife, Margaret died earlier in 2019. He says “there are many friends and ‘old golf buddies’ here and everyone is so friendly”. To preserve history, Jack has written journals about his ancestry, childhood, employment and war experiences. What a rich treasure for his family!
Get to know Jack. You will be honored to know such a gentleman, a war hero, an exceptional artist, and humorist who is ready to tell you a story.
“Improving posture can be done with time and focus.”
For most adults, posture is typically an afterthought at both work and home. But as we age, retaining good posture actually becomes even more important to our physical health and wellness.
What Causes Poor Posture for Seniors?
Avoiding a wholly sedentary lifestyle is the key to good posture for people of all ages. However, it is unfortunately common for seniors, especially those with pre-existing health complications like arthritis, to take up inactive lifestyles. This can also lead to poor posture.
Seniors who are recovering from a recent injury or surgical procedure may also encounter similar difficulties staying fit and sitting right. Families and caregivers must encourage their aging loved ones to correct poor posture. Performing a minimum amount of daily exercise to improve balance and muscle strength will help this.
Good Posture Prevents Falls for Seniors
Did you know that seniors who are mindful about their postures are more likely avoid injuries and even falls? According to the National Institute for Fitness and Sport, “when you have good posture, your body will work the way it is supposed to, keeping your muscles balanced.”
When you sit or stand with proper posture, you are doing your body a favor by not overexerting yourself. Overexertion can cause unnecessary strain on weaker muscles. Additionally, being mindful of your posture is great for balance.
Steps for Improving Posture
Don’t give up; Improving posture can be done with time and focus.
Discuss your current weight with a doctor or caregiver. The conversation should reveal expectations of an acceptable weight for your age, sex, and body type, as well as a plan for how to stay there.
Take up a regular schedule of exercise, if you haven’t already. There is evidence that group nature walks can provide mental benefits for seniors, beyond just delivering a dose of physical activity.
Evaluate the lumbar support of the chairs and other seating options in your home. If necessary, consider purchasing a new chair that encourages better posture.
It is important to correct poor posture as soon as possible to avoid further health complications, like neck and back pain. Keeping our bodies in motion is essential to avoid the consequences of living an unhealthy, sedentary lifestyle.
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